So many times it is heard by women that there are no available men around. Countless women tell stories of men that just didn’t turn out to be right for them. The key however to attract the man of your dreams is to know what you want. There is a visualization exercise that will aid one in attracting the man you of your dreams. This also works for men as well so everyone can continue to read along.

Step 1

Close your eyes and imagine that you are in an empty lobby with a glass wall to an outside public street and a revolving door. Suddenly all sorts of men (or women if you're a man) start walking in front of the glass wall building and into the lobby by way of the revolving doors. These men come in a great variety of heights, hair and eye color, sizes, personalities and so on.

Step 2

Now see them with there qualities and personalities. Attractive men. Successful men. Artistic men. Men who are good with building things. Men who have strong belief in God. Men who are adventurers. Men who believe only in the power of themselves to succeed.

Step 3

Now decide which are most attractive to you and your personality and lifestyle. This is the step where you isolate this image. Now only the men who possess those attributes that are truly attractive to your wants and needs are coming through this door. They come only in the physical packages that you are attracted too.

Step 4

Now only see one man with the total package. Hold that image in your mind. Have him look directly at you and walk towards you in a way to let you know that he desires the qualities that you have as being the woman of his dreams.

Step 5

Each morning when you rise and each night before you go to sleep, take three to five minutes and hold this image in your mind. Soon your sub-conscience will start directing you to this man. The laws of attraction will lead you to your dreams

How to attract a man

I remember my first job. There was this gorgeous guy working their the only problem was I had never talked to him but I knew I wanted him. Every day I wore my most revealing clothes, flashed my legs when ever he was about, caked my face in make up. I did this for two months without even talking to him and he didn't even notice me. Then one day I thought all my birthdays had come at once. Here I was standing in the lift with him.

The next thing I did I will never forget until the day I die. I jumped up at him and kissed him full blown on the lips. The poor bloke nearly had a heart attack. I told him I had been after him for ages but that he hadn't even noticed me. He exploded shouting that he had seen me and thought that I had been acting like a tart and that he was married but even if he wasn't I wouldn't stand a chance. Well I slapped him for the insult, walked out and never returned. This funny incident taught me a valuable lesson just be yourself (Oh and find out if he's married). Here are a few pointers to keep in mind when trying to attract a man

The man has to know that you exist. Say you have been working in the same office as the guy for a while and he hasn't noticed you the chances are he has no interest in you

Confidence is the number one attraction. Being more confident with yourself and your surroundings will attract someone that is equal to you. You will also notice that more people are drawn to you.

Appearance is also a big issue. If he sees you when you are at your worst then he will not want to look a second time

Give him a reason to think about you. Wear a lingering fragrance that sticks to his senses, soft clothes that he yearns to touch, a smile that he can't get out of his mind.

Flirt with him

Make him feel important. Listen to what he says, laugh at his jokes no matter how lama they are, take an interest in his interests

Don't try and be something you are not. He will be falling for a false idol and will not want to know you when he sees the real you.

Be vulnerable. Let down the armor. Let men do things for you then thank them for their help.

Flirting Body language

This is the language where you don`t need any words. Women have been doing it for hundreds of years to attract the man they want. Becoming fluent in body language will ensure that you will be skilled in attracting the right man and sending the get-lost signal to the wrong man.

The importance of eye contact with the girl or guy you fancy

The more eye contact you establish with the target, the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Then, begin with direct eye contact. Once he turns to meet your gaze, immediately lower your eyes and smile to yourself, this will tell him that you were watching him and are embarrassed that he caught you - a sure sign of interest. Next, be bold and try holding his stare, flashing a small, open-lipped smile.

If there is a man that is giving you the eyes and you are not interested look away from him and don`t look back at him again. When in conversation, looking at the ceiling and all around the room also shows a definite lack of interest.

First impressions count - cannot be understated when you meet the person you are attracted to.

You leave your home ready to go to a party when you spot your gorgeous neighbor and he doesn’t give you a second glance. Why? Because you aren't dressed your best. When you entering a room most people look to see who has come in. This is when you have to make an impression. Looking your best will make you feel your best. So make sure that before you leave your front door look your best, and you never know you might just attract the attention of that gorgeous neighbor

The Body language such as your hand movements can be a clear signal such as the caressing of a wine glass

Even without direct contact, your hands can send very powerful messages. There are a number of ways to convey that you want to get to know someone. Keeping your hands unclenched shows you're open to him. Using your hands to caress objects, such as the rim of your glass, locks of your hair, or the sleeve of your blouse, in a rhythmic (as opposed to fidgety) manner, can be a sensual act. And for the braver hands, try picking fluff off his jacket, touching him to punctuate a point, or using the "accidental touch" when reaching for the salt.

Hands that are jammed in pockets, busy cleaning glasses, or balled in tight fists are all bad signs. Fingers tapping, drumming, pointing, or wagging are also signals to move on

Stand out from the crowd, showing a man you want him

Your posture is one of the most telling signals you transmit. An open posture is evidence of an open person. Turning your body toward the man you're conversing with, keeping your feet flat on the floor and leaning forward are actions that show interest. As well, slightly tilting your head, crossing and uncrossing your legs, and thrusting your chest forward give the message that you are interested.

As for ways to send a man packing, crossing your arms, holding a drink high in front of you, turning your body away or resting your feet on their toes will tell a person you are not interested.

A few extra tips for pulling the man of your dreams/desires

Hopefully by now, you have an attack plan and a clear idea of when it's time to get down and dirty or when you're best just to wave the white flag. Here are just a few more tips when trying to perfect your body language skills:

You'll know things are going really well when you begin "mirroring" one another's body language and gestures.
Don`t tease him by offering more than you plan to follow through. This can lead to very ugly circumstances
Chain smoking, being extremely intoxicated, or having eyes only for your plate of food will not put you in the best standing for the body language game
If you try your hand at it, and he's not responding, abort the mission immediately
Following him around all night will only serve in making you look needy and desperate

What you should never do when trying to flirt

Don`t rely on others to make things happen for you. The only way to get the man you want is to go out and get him yourself. Men like women that are confident, women that will approach them. You aren't in the playground now, where you would get your friends to ask the boy from sixth form out for you. You are an adult now and if you don`t want to settle for second best you have to go out and get your man. Alone, without help from your friends.

Flirt all you like but DON`T tease

It is one thing to flirt but teasing can land you in trouble. Have fun, clean fun. If you are interested in a man you don`t need to lead him on into jumping to the wrong conclusions. Don`t offer what you don`t intend to give. The man may become heavy if you don`t give him what you have been suggesting you are going to give him.

Give him/her room to breathe - don't make her feel claustrophobic

Don`t crowd him to much or cling to him. Don`t follow him around or keep your eye on him. He is probably out for the same reason as you flirt with all the girls. Instead back off and play it cool keep him guessing.

Don`t let rejection get you down happens to everyone

All of us at one time in our life experience rejection from the opposite sex. You might feel a bit down at the time of it happening but you can`t let it hold you back. If we never got rejected we would all be with the wrong guys (it may sound strange but it is true because we might just decide to settle with someone without having set our goals higher.) We have put together a page for you on how to handle rejection.

Don`t fidget when close to the person you like

Fidgeting is a sign of nervousness and lack of confidence and can put many people off wanting to approach you. Even if you are nervous hold your posture and keep your hands and legs still. Better still get onto the dance floor and put your hands and legs to good use.

DON`T get to drunk when out

This is the last but the most important. Being drunk can make a usually ugly guy seem handsome and can lead you to give him your phone number or worse still going back to his place and waking up next to him in all his unsightly glory. When you are drunk you also aren't aware of your surroundings or what is happening and can also leave you forgetting what took place the night before, good, or bad. This is the one time you need your friends. Make sure that they don`t leave with out you and that they see to it that you get home safely.

Now all that is left is for you to have a good time and know your own limits

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