| Toxic relationships,
while immensely destructive, can be very difficult to break away
from. Though this may seem counter intuitive, it makes sense if
you consider that people who stay with someone who persistently
behaves in degrading, humiliating, or controlling ways is beaten
down over time. Low self esteem can cause the partner to
believe that he or she doesn't deserve any better, or that he or she
is incapable of making it successfully on his or her own. However,
it is possible to free yourself from toxic relationships and embrace
a healthier and happier future. Here are 3 steps to
successfully extricating yourself from a toxic relationship:
1.
Take good care of yourself physically. Eat healthy meals with
fresh fruit, vegetables, lean proteins and whole grains. Cut
way down on highly processed foods and sugars. Take vitamins
and supplements as optimal for your health. Most people can
benefit from a multivitamin and fish oil. Start an exercise
program approved by your doctor and commit to regularly working out. Strengthening
your body does much to support your emotional resilience.
2.
Surround yourself with as many support people as possible. This
can include friends and family members, and support professionals
such as a counselor and/or coach. Your friends and family can
provide emotional support and "reprogramming" of the
negative messages you heard from your partner. Professionals
can offer support, encouragement, help you process your emotions,
and help co create strategies to move you forward toward your goals.
3.
Get back in touch with your "red flag" instincts and begin
heeding the prompts you receive. Begin by getting back into
awareness of the way your body reacts to different events, people,
and emotional stimuli. Pay attention to how you respond
physically when someone does something kind, as well as when someone
does something hurtful. Begin to move toward the people and
things that give you physically relaxed, peaceful sensations, and
avoid the people and situations where you feel shamed, anxious, and
upset. As you become more comfortable with the positive
sensations, you will become more aware and inclined toward healthier
situations.
| By the way,
what is holding you back from making the best choices to
achieve the life you deserve? |
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